Warning for all the single ladies. men you met online may not be what they seem.
Ladies,If by chance you make friends with people online and your considering a relationship with them. please make sure you find out as much about them as possible before you make a mistake and regret it for the rest of your life.
Recently I talked to a lady who seemed very sweet and genuine. Who met a fellow blogger one whom we have all talked to years ago. He talked her into coming to pakistan and getting married bless her soul she did, she thought she loved him and she thought that his words of love to her was real. She wanted to know how did I know he was a bad person what clues were there. well first of all.
Let me refresh all of you as to who this person is. and I don't have a problem with calling a duck a duck if its a duck.
If I remember right one of his blogs was boxing champ. This was years ago and put this person out of my mind until recently but he had many blogs
Love hound was another one for those of you who didn't know and I'm sure if i did some digging i could find all the others that I found one of which he claimed to be living in new york. which is a lie this man has never set foot on U.S soil thank god.
he claimed his name was kharram or khurram or kharrum. He also claimed he had a Christan name of darrius or darrian I wished I could remember the correct spellings in case anyone happens to read this and knows of who I'm talking about or happens to read this and thinks omg that person is trying to tell me he loves me right now and I'm talking to him. no ladies no no no no get away from him he is bad news.
How did I know the things about him he was telling me was false.
First of all he contacted me through my yahoo messenger claiming i was on it somehow as a friend. telling me who he was which knowing he was a commenter on my blog i thought nothing of it and talked to him we talked for months he was entertaining and it drove my family nuts so of course anything to drive my family nuts because they are all up in my business and I've told them for years stay out of my business so of course if we can throw them into a fitful frenzy because they have poked there nose where it don't belong lets do it. I love it I'm game for a game.
Anyway......
He posted a picture of a man in a boxing ring that was supposed to be him self which threw all the ladies on the Internet into a swooning frenzy. me I'm like OK if that is who he says he is not bad. then months later he posted another picture of a man in a boxing ring again that was supposed to be him. well after talking to him on messenger and seeing the pictures the two men look nothing alike. (well duhhh dumb ass its not him )
So he sends me a picture of himself through yahoo messenger . I immediately told him the pictures on your blog of the two men you claim to be you are not you and this picture you have sent me looks nothing like them either. The real pictures of him was far from an athlete especially a boxer.
of course he tried to tell me it was. ( OK I'll play your little game to the fullest, you want to play mind games I'm your girl little FYI if your stupid enough to want to play mind games with me then please make sure your smarter than I am don't try to play a player you will loose)
So I started paying close attention to his blog the ladies that would chat him up I'd visit their site to see what kind of comments and things he would post back to them very interesting I knew then he was a major player.
I kept talking to him after all of that like i said before he was entertaining I had many laughs at his expense talking to him I guess he thought I was that stupid. which actually i was for talking to him the first day on my messenger and allowing him into that part of my online life. But I wanted to try to figure him out and learn more about him. So I let him feed me bullshit and I fed him bullshit back. At this point it turned into a full blown I'm gonna find out as much as i can about you game find out all your lies and then blast you with them all at one time and let everyone know about it. why because I can.
all the names he gave me claiming to be him I searched the Internet I found all his blogs. any website page he had I found them.
I played with him for months letting him think i was stupid enough to believe him.
But he made a mistake which made me tell him off sooner than what I had planned. He let his hatred for my country be known He told me just what he thought of my country and Americans.
Let me tell you Something I'm as patriotic to my country as the next person who is a True born in the United States Of America who's parents are True born in the United States Of America Who's Grandparents are True born in the United States Of America. can be.
You are talking to me I'm an American. You talk of living in my country and wanting to live in my country and not just any part of my country but you specifically want to live in New York. but yet you hate my country and you hate Americans well F- you buddy That is when I went off The games comes to a halt. Red flags go up This wasn't long after the attack on 9/11 on my country. He makes some pretty strong comments. And the telling off begins the red flags are up and all the "what ifs " what if he is a terrorist trying to convince some unsuspecting person to allow him to come to our country. I knew all the ladies would probably check my blog out as i did theirs to find out just what was he telling me what was we flirting back and fourth and where was it leading was he playing them or trying to at least I had hoped they were smart enough to realise that he was a fraud , a fake, a phony, a liar , a deceitful person. so i publicly made it known on my blog what he was about. My mother wanted me to contact our government on him but what do you tell them? and I'm sure with him talking to me we was already being watched because he came from over there so I'm sure if there was any threat they was already on it or at least they let it be known in the media that anyone talking to people over there would be watched would be investigated unknowingly but I had no proof of who his real name is it could be Kermit the frog for all I knew and beside they had enough on their plate with all the crazy people I'm sure calling in that might of thought they seen bin ladin riding a Camel through the Arizona desert no why get them involved.
Now He has now gotten a nice lady to marry him and get him out of pakistan one that is a non threat to the U.S so it would be easy for him to get passport to come to our country. which is a scary thought. Or you know.. what what if?? he was pretending to be the lady that contacted me telling me of how he conned her? and contacted me to try to play more mind games. either way I can neither confirm nor deny that the lady is who she says she is.
She wanted me to post on my blog warning other ladies like her of the possible dangers of getting involved with a man online and the hard aches it can cause and to possibly let them know how to spot warning signs.
1. if they post a picture online and then send you a picture and the two people look different
even the skin color was different ( here is your sign)
Don't believe them any further seeing is believing and there is your proof he is a liar.
2. do an online search with all the information they give you. the Internet is a powerful tool use
it to your advantage.
it to your advantage don't be stupid. do background checks if you can.
There are all kinds of tools to look into people's past online find them use them.
3. Listen to your inner self and don't blow it off. you have a natural warning mechanism ladies.
listen to it before you make the worse mistake of your life.
4. if you meet them and all they have told you about their life you find out is a lie get away
from them fast. that should be another clue they have lied to you about everything!
5. Try to stick to men from your own country. ( lesson learned the hard way i married a Scot
not that he was bad just not for me. )
6. When they bad mouth your own country and your nationality ( here's your sign )
7. When it comes to a intimate relationship stick to men from your own country. did i say that
already?
let me also include that not all men from different countries are bad seeds their are some good men out there from other countries would i advise you to have a relationship with them beyond friendship no i would not but that is me from my own experiences but you do what you want to do your an adult and can make up your own mind but if bells and whistles go off something is wrong then listen to it because something is wrong use your brain.
Did I want to post about all of this not really but out of encouragement from this lady to please post about my experience with this person I did there you have it in the readers digest version.
Do I want the peanut gallery (meaning my family ) to comment on it? no. It was pleasure enough for me to watch them react they way they did just watching me talking to this person. that gave me self gratification that I upset them because they can't find anything better to do than to get into my business to mind their own.
which is another main reason why i continued to talk to kharram as long as I did.
Am I a bitch for pointing this fact out and for doing it? hell yes, but it was fun for me and lots of good laughs.
Did my family actually think I was serious about kharram? uh huh yes they did and that made it all the more sweet.
Will they ever believe that it was just entertainment for me and a game for me to play? no they won't believe it and do i care no I still get just as much pleasure out of it when i think of it
Am I despicable? YES lol.
Happy Birthday to me. Take care and have a good one who knows when I'll post again. might be another year or two.
and very sorry for any typographical errors I may have made I really don't feel like going back and correcting them.
posted by TheBlondeBrunette @ Monday, November 01, 2010
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